Sacred Alone TimeEnjoy this month’s sacred guest post, 5 Sacred Practices I Do When I’m Alone from the soulful and beautiful, Vienda Maria.

It took me many years to recognize and honor that one of my non-negotiable staples in life is carving out precious, sacred, alone time. I am so determined to take soulful time for myself —that I can sometimes come across a bit short and aloof when my quota of giving my time and energy to others is full, and I need to retreat.

I can tell that I need to be alone and recharge when remaining present in a conversation becomes difficult. When I’m maxed out, my heart can’t stay open to others, and my energy levels drop. It’s a nebulous change in my energy field that distinctly tells me that it is time to step away, and take time for myself.

A common misconception we have is that we need to be busy doing things at all times in order to have value and worth. When we get comfortable with simply being, instead of doing, we learn to surrender to our divine feminine nature and honor the goddess within.

Here are 5 ways I lean inwards, nurture my soul, create sacred space and surrender to my feminine nature, when I am alone…


Lay down. I rest on my back, fully relaxing into the green grass, yoga mat, bed or sofa — wherever I might find myself. I like to spread my legs slightly and place my hands palm up towards the skies, for receiving, or on my heart or stomach for nurturing, depending on what I feel I need in that moment. When I am alone, I like to just lay still and do nothing. To simply breathe and feel what it feels like to be alive and in this body of mine.

Follow my flow. Alone-time means freedom, space and time to do whatever I feel like. I often ask myself “What do I feel inspired by in this very moment?”. And then I wait and listen until the stirrings of my soul guide me to something. Sometimes that something is simply to stay in bed or read a book. Other times it’s to create, write or draw. Occasionally I’m drawn to clean, organize, tidy or plan. Whatever it is — is perfect in that moment. Following your flow is about giving yourself permission to be present, in the moment, and follow the yearnings of your heart and soul.

Journal. My ultimate me time pursuit is writing. I love to express whatever is stirring in my soul. The good, the bad, the beautiful, the ugly; I allow it all to tumble out until I feel clean, wild and free again. The catharsis of letting go of all the thoughts that can haunt us is a magical cure to all that ails us. A really great way to start this practice is to read The Artists Way by Julia Cameron and start writing morning pages.

Sleep. Despite popular belief and social conditioning, there is nothing more enlivening, miracle-making and nurturing than a nap in the daytime. While it’s wonderful to appreciate every moment of life with awareness, there is another world waiting for your attention when you sleep. Dreams are vital storytellers and filing processes of the mind, making sense of our daily stimuli by giving us an organized system to clear mental clutter, miraculously solve problems and recharge our souls.

Meditate. Lying still, resting and connecting with my body easily leads to meditation for me. Especially on the days that my mind has gone wild. I make a conscious decision to become present, focus on my breath and seek out my sweet spot — that distinct connection with my goddess wisdom. This is the space where I find my divine connection with all there is; that infinite pool of peace, love and calm.

Being alone is how I replenish myself, time alone gives me the space to refuel and give myself what I need, which is essentially and act of self-love.

When we ignore our divine feminine needs, we can become disconnected from the goddess within us. Who are we when we are not embodying the radiant truth of our divinely infinite beings?

Do you often carve out time just for yourself?

How do you spend your alone time?

What do you need to let go of to make more time to honor yourself?



About Vienda Maria

ViendaVienda Maria Vienda is a life coach, writer and creative who travels the world, teaching women how they can create their own reality by uncovering your own truth and embodying their full potential. This is where they discover their freedom.

She believes that when we live our lives from a space of love and soul, a transformational ripple occurs that changes our entire world. Making our planet a better, kinder, more peaceful place.

One beautiful, spirited human being at a time.


About Shann Vander Leek

Shann Vander Leek

Shann is a Transformational Leader, Award-Winning Podcaster, Best-Selling Author, Voice Over Talent, Podcast Coach, and Producer. She lives in the village of Suttons Bay, Michigan with her beloved husband and mouthy old cat. This Goddess Shines!

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  • Peggy Jul 15, 2015, 8:42 am

    It’s all about the basics…and these basics are so essential to living life well and yet too many see these basics as selfish and self-indulgent or worse, they feel guilty if they take a nap in the afternoon or put themselves in a 15 minute meditation time out.

    • Vienda Jul 17, 2015, 9:00 pm

      I agree; it would be so wonderful if taking care of ourselves and being ‘selfish’ was no longer viewed that way, but rather as the norm. We can’t take care of each other if we can’t take care of ourselves first, anyway…

  • Rachel Jul 15, 2015, 8:59 am

    I so resonate with you, I would feel resentments rising up when I don’t have my nourishing solitude time. I love your list of five ways to connect with yourself.

    • Vienda Jul 17, 2015, 9:01 pm

      Yes! Ah, that tell-tale resentment is such a powerful reminder to return to ourselves and fill up our wells! 🙂

  • Debra Reble Jul 15, 2015, 9:15 am

    This post touches my heart and soul as it used to be so difficult to give myself such sacred space. Now I just came back from an entire week of doing nothing but self-care and creating healing space. Thank you for sharing this beautiful post with us Shann. Blessings

  • Andrea Jul 15, 2015, 9:30 am

    Thanks for a lovely post. I, too, recharge with alone time. I find it much easier to “listen” to myself when I can do this.

    • Vienda Jul 17, 2015, 9:03 pm

      Yes, totally. I am the same. The outside voices can be so strong and even overpowering when we don’t future time alone with our inner voices! x

  • Pamela Jul 15, 2015, 1:03 pm

    Beautiful post Vienda Maria. I can relate to becoming a bit short and aloof when I need some alone time. Thank you for sharing your 5 ways to lean inwards…

    • Vienda Jul 17, 2015, 9:03 pm

      Thank you Pamela. It’s so nice to connect with like-minded and -hearted souls. 🙂

  • Kerri Lyn Jul 15, 2015, 4:20 pm

    Great reminder. Paying attention to our intuition, listening to our signals, and giving ourselves what we need to recharge is just as important as paying attention to the dashboard of our car. When the gas light goes on and we are empty, it’s time to fill the well!

    • Vienda Jul 17, 2015, 9:06 pm

      And to add to that, I think it would be wonderful if we somehow had such a nurturing practice, that we are constantly topping up, instead of allowing our gas lights to go on… In my ideal reality, we are self-aware enough to continuously keep giving ourselves what we need, so we never run out!

  • Heather Jul 17, 2015, 8:22 am

    Lovely post, I also need alone time to feel nourished…often its a walk along the river or up in the hills, or puttering about in my garden. For me, solo time combined with connection to nature is deeply replenishing.

  • Vienda Jul 17, 2015, 9:06 pm

    For me too. Walking alone, especially in nature, is my church!