Today it’s my pleasure to share an article written by my friend, Reba Linker. Read on to learn how Reba has learned to access joy through diving deep into a well of sacred feminine healing.

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Image of Inanna by Susan Seddon-Boulet

What brings joy, really?

Easy answer: the people, places and things that make us joyful. We can watch a funny movie, dance, sing, cradle a baby, help a friend, etc. And if all else fails we can play with a sweet puppy!

But eventually the puppy will need to take a nap, and what if there are no funny movies playing? Then where’s our joy? Must we run out in search of something else?

Joy is a pretty picture, but the picture doesn’t tell the whole story. In ballet we delight in the dancers’ airborne flights. What freedom! What joy! But every dancer knows that a leap is created in the plié, the preparation for the jump that presses into the earth in order to release the body like a spring into the air.

There is no leap without its plié, and there is no true joy without springing the bonds that hold us down. We may strain upwards, towards joy, but paradoxically we must go deep in order to create release and flow.

For there is a sense of joy that encompasses ALL the emotions. Emotions flow through us like water flowing through a riverbed; true joy is experiencing all the bends and turns of the river, the slow and the quick, without getting stuck in any one spot.

This kind of joy doesn’t seek the next joyous thing; this is the joy of life itself.

And this kind of joy is often blocked by trauma.

Trauma is simply unprocessed emotion. It starts as an experience that we are unable to handle at the time. The experience gets suppressed, tucked into the cells of the body until such time as it may be felt and released.

It’s as if the original experience gets frozen in time. Yet it re-asserts itself over and over, making itself felt through our reactions of fear, pain, anger and depression.

It’s like a block of ice stopping the flow of the river. We feel numb, not fully awake. We ‘seek joy’ and join seminars on how to ‘find joy,’ yet we live in terror of touching those red-hot buttons of unprocessed emotion. We are cut off from ourselves.

And this is where the Divine Feminine comes in, urging us down into the body and into the acceptance of the emotions that are held in the body.

Down, down, down in order to rise.

One aspect of the Divine Feminine is Mother Earth, and perhaps the grandest expression of her love for us is gravity itself. The way love can draw someone to us, the way a sea turtle can follow a thousand mile path to a distant shore, gravity is Mother Earth’s siren song to us and it’s as strong and deep as the hot center of the earth itself.

Come to me, she says. Let me embrace you, she says.

Experience the body in all its sensuousness, for this moves us into the magic of the present moment.

Dive down. Be unafraid of the deep or the dark, for we will rise again refreshed and miraculously full of light.

Weightlessness is only half the story, and the story needs its other half. Return to the earth, to the ancient healing wisdom needed for our souls and for our precious planet.

Like so many women, I lived the first half of my life in the masculine mode: striving and achieving, but not at peace. I floated far above my emotions, and I’m only just now getting to know the depth of the iceberg of unprocessed experience I’ve been carrying around.

Our modern world also moves to a masculine rhythm, defying gravity, thrusting buildings and rockets skyward. Nurturing is devalued, nature disdained and misunderstood. The female form is asked to fight gravity; even our shoes are gravity defying!

Mother Earth asks us to drop the upward push and renew ourselves in her deep healing waters, to replace the image of sexiness with a juicy connection to our feminine power.

In Mother Earth’s warm embrace my iceberg of unprocessed emotion will melt quicker than a chip of ice in a cup of hot tea, yet for me, for now, it still sometimes feels unfathomable.

I will stay present with my breath as I go down, down, down into the core of my being. I will let myself be cradled by my mother’s love for me, a rebirth into the light made bearable only by her love.

And when I’m not breathing into my emotions, I’ll keep on dancing and I’ll keep on singing, too. Maybe I’ll even get that puppy to play with.

Dive deep – our Divine Mother’s loving embrace is there for us and she is leading us back home.

Reba LinkerBestselling author, talk show host, and life coach, Reba Linker’s bumper sticker would read: Every obstacle is a doorway. Are you ready to dive deep, release pain and open to new possibilities? Join Reba on the path of self-love! Reba’s books include bestselling journal Imagine Self-Love, The Little Book of Manifesting Big, and Follow the Yarn. Her Youtube show, Paint Yourself Into the Picture, features unscripted, on-air coaching sessions and an upcoming series of interviews on the Divine Feminine. Claim a free Chapter of Imagine Self-Love at

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  • Bryna Haynes Jun 8, 2016, 7:44 am

    Thanks, Reba and Shann, for a great reminder. I need more dancing, singing, grounding, and general joy in my life. I tend to be a “doer” and love the feeling of being in momentum, but that doesn’t always give me what I truly need.

    • Reba Linker Jun 8, 2016, 12:10 pm

      I love ‘doing,’ too, Bryna, but other spirits are calling for my attention now. So glad this was a good reminder for you!

  • Laurie Seymour Jun 8, 2016, 9:33 am

    “There is no leap without its plié.” I love the fullness of life and how you have painted it for us here, Reba. I make a distinction between happiness and joy. Happiness is that emotion that comes and goes, dependent upon something outside of us. Joy is available in the fullness and becomes sustainable as we claim that. Thank you for your beautiful post!

    • Reba Linker Jun 8, 2016, 12:11 pm

      I like your definitions of happiness and joy, Laurie. We are on the same page, whatever names we put to it.

  • Lyn Jun 8, 2016, 9:44 am

    This is poetry to my soul. Thank you for inspiring me to allow the Divine Mother to hold me in her tender embrace as I breathe into, feel, and heal the pain buried deep in my body. Reba, this is a profound piece that speaks to me deeply. In gratitude.

    • Reba Linker Jun 8, 2016, 12:12 pm

      Lyn – thank you. I am so glad this comes to you at the right time. Love, Reba

  • Lisa Hutchison Jun 8, 2016, 11:34 am

    Beautiful! Thank you Reba and Shann. In order to find joy we must go deep to release and flow, always trusting in the Divine Feminine. xx

    • Reba Linker Jun 8, 2016, 12:13 pm

      Yes, exactly. Release, and flow. Perfect. Thank you, Lisa, xo, Reba

  • Andrea Jun 8, 2016, 1:03 pm

    My healing journey has taken another turn and, once again, my exercise includes a barre workout. So my ‘take’ on “no leap without plie” was pretty literal today… and appreciated. Thank you.

    • Reba Linker Jun 8, 2016, 3:56 pm

      Andrea – sounds awesome. Did you study ballet as a child? xo, Reba

  • Latrelle Jun 9, 2016, 9:29 am

    What a wonderful post! Thank you Shann for posting and Reba for writing.

    Even those closest to me, who know I value nurturing and healing, instead of plowing through, still struggle with my choices to put these things first in my life. The opposite is so ingrained in everyone’s psyche.

    So, I choose to be the shining example of another way and this beautiful post has provided all kinds of wisdom and support to stay the course. Thanks 🙂

    • Reba Linker Jun 9, 2016, 7:35 pm

      How wonderful. I am so glad that our journeys are congruent, Latrelle! Keep diving deep – others will follow when they see the pearls you’ll bring up to the surface!

  • Natasha Botkin Jun 9, 2016, 9:38 am

    Absoultely beautiful post. I very much enjoyed and appreciated the divine feminine essence of mother gaia (mother earth). As of recent, I am finding joy in my garden. Chaos that had entered my life, brought me away and through healing my garden, I’ve begun to heal me.

    • Reba Linker Jun 9, 2016, 7:36 pm

      Yes, we are returning to our Divine Mother, who has love and comfort for us all!

  • Roslyn Tanner Evans Jun 9, 2016, 3:19 pm

    I’m finding the joy you speak of in being more still. Stiller than I have ever been. I feel a sense of groundedness unfamiliar to me. I don’t have anything to prove or any place to get to. It allows for a freedom to create, to take it, to speak, to relax. All of this is joy for me. A newly discovered word & being.

    • Reba Linker Jun 9, 2016, 7:38 pm

      How absolutely beautiful, Roslyn. I can’t tell you how much I appreciate getting to know you and how much I value your wisdom, which seems to flow so naturally in you and to you!

  • Beverley Golden Jun 9, 2016, 3:46 pm

    This is the perfect post for me today Reba, as I find myself flying around the cosmos, not as conscious of being on the ground as I would like to. I love this reminder of the Divine Feminine being Mother Earth, as somehow my attraction has always been the sky above me and the dancing clouds that capture my imagination. My joy comes from learning and doing and the wisdom of this post for me, is to stop and allow myself more time to just “be”. Thanks for this! xo

    • Reba Linker Jun 9, 2016, 7:39 pm

      Hi Beverley, I am dancer in the clouds and the twinkling night sky myself, so I totally get it! I’m glad this was a good reminder for you, as it is for me as well!

  • Vatsala Shukla Jun 9, 2016, 11:43 pm

    The Bhagvad Gita teaches us that happiness comes from within, Reba, and all external prompts for happiness are illusionary. Whenever I feel that sense of joy dissipate, I return to Source and seek Nature. Sitting in the garden with my furry friend Miss Coco and listening to the birds, watching the running squirrels and letting the wind which is dancing with the trees wash over me, brings me back to inner peace and joy. Mother Nature knows how to soothe her human children if we are open to receiving her love.

    • Reba Linker Jun 10, 2016, 9:20 am

      Thank you, Vatsala. Every word you said is TRUTH. I know it, I knew it, and I am learning it again!

  • Julia Jun 10, 2016, 11:30 am

    Wow Reba, this is such a beautiful testimony to the truth in the lives of so many of us around the world. I, too, long to connect to the Earth and my feminine sensuality and allow a true sense of who I am to be reborn. Looking forward to making the journey with such an inspirational lady at my side xx

  • Reba Linker Jun 10, 2016, 11:40 am

    Thank you, Julia – isn’t it incredible that you and I, and other women on this journey, have found each other? Is it not a miracle? xo!

  • Marquita Herald Jun 10, 2016, 12:09 pm

    Truly inspirational Reba. I’m not a spiritual person by nature but you’ve beautifully explained the nature of joy, what can prevent us from experiencing it fully. Thank you!

    • Reba Linker Jun 14, 2016, 8:11 am

      Thank you, Marquita. That makes me so happy as I love to speak in a way that people can connect, whether they’re ‘into this stuff’ or not! xo, Reba

  • Teresa Salhi Jun 10, 2016, 12:56 pm

    Love this so much and also what I am passionate about. Thank for the wonderful reflections.

    • Reba Linker Jun 14, 2016, 8:12 am

      Thank you Teresa, I’m glad. I guess we’ll wave to each other as we dive for our pearls!!! xo, Reba

  • Millen Jun 10, 2016, 2:00 pm

    You articulated so elegantly both the joy and the trauma in our emotional experiences… I loved how you said “joy is often blocked by trauma. Trauma is simply unprocessed emotion. It starts as an experience that we are unable to handle at the time. The experience gets suppressed, tucked into the cells of the body until such time as it may be felt and released.” So true! And I love you referring to Mother Earth as Divine Feminine… Beautiful and powerful!

    • Reba Linker Jun 14, 2016, 8:14 am

      Oh yes, I love our Divine Mother. I’m so glad this post resonated with you, Millen!

  • Joyce Hansen Jun 15, 2016, 10:41 am

    Reba, I was so into on how you were expressing Joy that I was brought up abruptly by your switch to talking about Trauma.Then I began to think of how much trauma has affected the joy in my life. Releasing old trauma patterns through the divine feminine is something that I need to explore more.

  • Reba Linker Jun 15, 2016, 10:52 am

    I really appreciate this comment, Joyce. I was thinking the same thing as I was writing it – lol! I’m glad that you were open to the idea, and that it has something in it for you! xo, Reba