Fay Jones, Author, Teacher, Healer
Welcome to this months Divine Feminine Spotlight. I’m so glad you’re here!
The intention for The Divine Feminine Spotlight is to share transformational stories of women who have learned to walk in beauty, with the strength, courage, and pleasure of claiming their feminine sovereignty.
Today it’s my pleasure to introduce you to Fay Jones. Fay is the mom of a wonderful 13-year-old daughter, a practicing acupuncturist and the author of When Stress Makes You Sick. An absolute self-care junkie, she preaches that self-care equals self-love and deeply believes that THIS is the cornerstone of all healing and wellness. Teaching and living these skills and concepts is the basis of all the work that she does, whether it’s with her patients, her students or even with her daughter.
Divine Feminine Spotlight interviews are approximately 22-30 minutes in length and can be enjoyed here, or easily downloaded to your iPhone or mp3 player from iTunes.
“When you keep self-care a priority, it puts you into a position of strength and brings you into the present moment in ways that help you connect to your passion.”– Fay Jones
Here is a brief synopsis of our Divine Feminine Spotlight interview. Please make time to listen to the podcast to experience the full energetic connection of our conversation. You will LOVE Fay’s delightful energy!
What personal transformation have you experienced in the last 12 months?
It has been a really interesting year for me. The summer before last I wrote a book called “When Stress Makes You Sick” and for the nine months after it was published, I proved it true! I didn’t respect my own boundaries and over-committed to just about everyone but myself. I especially threw myself into a volunteer position doing fundraising at my daughter’s school. Adding that to the rest of my life, I was frazzled.
I didn’t really have great judgment about where I wanted to take my business and I ended up spending a lot of energy spinning my wheels in really ineffective ways. Everything in my life felt extreme and the whole of my life suffered –my business, my health and even my marriage.
I ended up taking a lot of time this past summer to regroup and restore the self-care routines I talk about in the book. I continued to see patients, but only a few days a week and I slept in every morning and took really great care of myself. I made a lot of changes including reintroducing the word “no” back into my vocabulary. I realized I had to get clear on where I wanted to put my energies.
A mentor of mine asked me to sit down with my priorities. I’m sure you’ve heard this before but she said to check my calendar and my checkbook to determine the things that were truly important to me. Well, it came down to my daughter and (her) education. I’ve heard myself saying for the last few years that if I had a chance to “do it again,” I’d choose a career in education, so I started to look at alternate realities and decided on a pretty radical shift in direction. Out of that soul-searching time, our new baby The Global Kitchen Project was conceived and I’m happy to report the “pregnancy” is going well!
What was your inspiration for The Global Kitchen Project?
Years ago, I promised myself that I would travel with my daughter by the time she turned 14 (which will be next June). I did a lot of traveling when I was younger and it changed me forever. My perspective on everything was expanded.
Sydney and I are obsessed with travel and languages and other cultures and I really wanted her to have her own version of the wonderful experiences I’ve had traveling. One little detail, though, was that I just didn’t have the budget to take time off to travel in the way I wanted to. We started talking about creative ways to make it happen and have it fund itself and designed what I think is a brilliant idea.
We considered our resources and passions. In addition to travel, she loves to cook and meet new people, she cares about the world and having done musical theatre for the last 7 years, she loves to perform. We put all those skills together and came up with The Global Kitchen Project—truly our passion project. It’s a kid-to-kid outreach program where we’ll connect with at least one host family in each country we visit. Sydney will get to spend some time with the kids, learn about their lives, what they think is important, how they feel about the world they’re going to inherit and what they do for fun. We’ll see some of the local sights with the kids and then she’ll cook with the family.
We believe that other kids will enjoy being a part of this experience, too, so we’ll film it all and put together a quick show for YouTube while we’re still on the road, then sit down with a professional editor when we get home, go through all the footage and put together the 6-8 shows of Season One. Our goal is to travel in this way every summer and on winter breaks all through her high school years.
We chose a show format because we believe that kids enjoy learning in this way, especially from a kid’s perspective. Ultimately we’ll be shopping the show to different cable networks and publishing a cookbook to help fund the future seasons.
Once you’re exposed to something new, your reality is stretched forever. Our hope is that as these future wards of our planet are learning to respect each other’s differences, they also begin to recognize just how much we all have in common and use this as a jumping off point to creating a more peaceful and collaborative world.
What are your favorite sacred feminine rituals?
My long-standing commitment to myself is my daily yoga practice. On December 31st, I’ll be celebrating 1000 days of this beautiful practice!
How else do you embody being a sovereign Goddess?
I think that “Goddess energy” is just another way of saying personal power and the thing that makes it uniquely feminine for me is connecting with the passion, living in the present moment and staying plugged in to the possibilities.
Lately, I’ve been doing a little exercise I did while reading Pam Grout’s Book E-Squared. Living in LA, it’s really easy for me to do with as much time as I spend in the car. I just look out for cars of a certain color while I’m driving. It keeps me mindful of what’s going on around me and reminds me that no matter what I’m looking for in my world, it likely already exists and I just need to keep my eyes open and hold a focus.
The other thing I’ve done is eliminate the words “need” and “can’t” from my vocabulary. It’s amazing how ingrained they are in our thought process. There is such a difference between “I can’t do that” and “I’m not available” or “I’m choosing to put my energy somewhere else right now.”
When I think of power from a masculine perspective, I think of force—making something happen. The Goddess energy, though, is like the yin to that yang and I feel like embodying being a sovereign goddess is about attracting, allowing and appreciating that the blessings already are.
How do you support women to embrace their divinely feminine spirit?
If you ask my patients, my clients, my daughter and her friends, my nieces or my girlfriends, they’ll tell you I am a huge “Girl Power” advocate. I encourage discovering and connecting to your passion, establishing and maintaining a solid self-care practice, and living an authentic life—figuring out who you really are and what’s really important to you and living from that construct.
The part I most often teach to my patients and clients is the self-care portion of that whole equation. Lifestyle changes like food choices, moving your body and sufficient rest are the ones that most people are familiar with, but I also teach mindfulness practices, meditation, gratitude practices and the importance of staying inspired and connected to your support network – the major tenets of my book.
We’d love to know about the free gift you wish to share with our community.
I have two special offers for the Transformation Goddess community!
The first gives you great way to stay plugged into your own passion and up the ante on self-care. When you keep self-care a priority, it puts you into a position of strength and brings you into the present moment in ways that help you connect to that passion. The Kindle version of my book, “When Stress Makes You Sick” will be almost 50% off for two weeks after this show airs. That’s only $2.99 for the electronic version of a book that can get you thinking about a different way to be with yourself. Claim a copy at www.whenstressmakesyousick.com. Offer available until December 4th, 2013.
The second offer is a free 30-day Gratitude Challenge. When you sign up at www.whenstressmakesyousick.com/gratitude, you’ll get an email delivered to your inbox each day for 30 days. Each day’s message contains a prompt that sets you up to journal about the things and people you’re grateful for.
Tell us how our listeners can connect with you learn more about the Global Kitchen Project?
Check out the website at www.sjgoesglobal.com, watch for the Kickstarter campaign after the first of the year and finally if you or someone you know might be interested in being a host family for one of our shows (we’ll be traveling this summer to Ireland, England, Wales, Scotland, Germany, France, Italy, Switzerland and Spain), please contact me directly at firstname.lastname@example.org
This just in… Exciting update on Fay’s trip–She has two host families confirmed (in Ireland and France) and contacts made in Germany, England, Italy plus another family that lives in a cave (!) in France. We now have a FB page where we will be posting more updates. Follow her progress at www.facebook.com/globalkitchenproject
If you enjoyed this interview, visit the Divine Feminine Spotlight archives for several more inspirational conversations.
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