My friend Lisa Marie Rosati joins us for the Transformation Goddess Sacred Summer Writing Series featuring several of the women who will be circling up for the Goddess Talk Sessions Global Event this September. Lisa’s post introduces us to the Queen archetype. Enjoy!
In the past I was a compulsive people pleaser. My personal vibration and self-esteem used to vary from moment to moment depending on the incoming compliments and moods of those around me. I remember feeling downright awful if someone I cared about was sad, mad, hurt, or in crisis. It seemed like I was putting out fires in someone’s life every day!
I wanted to fix EVERYTHING for everyone; wanting their happiness at the expense of my own because I allowed their emotional “stuff” to take me out of alignment. I spent my twenties and early thirties restoring and decorating a 1780’s farmhouse, that I formally named Bantam Hill Farm on the Gold Coast of Long Island. I owned, bred and did the husbandry for dogs, cats, parrots, chickens, goats, llamas, turkeys, mini horses, draft horses, a camel named Joshua and two red kangaroo named Rosie and Daisy – total truth.
I planted formal gardens and hosted many lavish backyard parties for one hundred plus people on our four-acre property. I cooked farm-to-table meals most nights and planned gatherings throughout the year; each time putting together a sophisticated menu, shopping for and preparing all of the food, drink and dessert selections for twelve people at a time– trust me when I tell you that Martha Stewart has nothing on me!
Towards my late thirties, I was still doing all of those creative Domestic Goddess things… but I noticed a new feeling beginning to bubble up from deep within me… I was feeling resentful.
I realized that I no longer felt the same joy in taking care of everyone, being the consummate hostess and the fixer of everything… I found myself wanting to have someone do things for ME, take care of ME – cook dinner for ME!
At the time I really didn’t understand why that was, I only knew that something within me had shifted, and I made the choice to honor it. I immediately began my journey of self-discovery and in the process found my answers.
Make Way For The QUEEN!
There are three archetypal phases that a woman’s life is made of:
Maiden – Childhood, adolescence, beginnings, purity, virginity, independence, courage. Each girl begins life as the young maiden, innocent and pure of heart.
Mother – Motherhood, protection, fertility, growth, creativity, sexuality. She then becomes the loving mother, giving life to another human being or birth to a business and accepting the nurturing responsibilities of raising the young and building a business/career.
Crone – Old age, keeper of the mysteries, wisdom, change, transformation, death, rebirth, banishing. Then, in her final phase, a woman becomes a crone, no longer able to bear children but possessing infinite wisdom to pass down to others.
This archetypal timeline worked fabulously for centuries, however these days women are living to be Centenarians (100+) and quite frankly, most women of menopausal age are just not ready to consider themselves Crones! I mean we still got it going on!
Because of this phenomenon, a new archetype has activated in women – The Queen Archetype.
The Queen emerges roughly between the ages of 40 and 60 years old. She no longer wants to mother and nurture others as a full time job, but instead wants to rule her kingdom (her life). The Queen’s children are older or have flown the nest completely OR she had birthed a career or business, it’s out of the infancy stage and has gained momentum. She has newfound sovereignty and it feels GOOD. The Queen begins to go on vacations with her beloved or girlfriends. She goes out to dinner more often, has more personal freedom and questions what she wants to do with the rest of her life.
This is what happened to me, have you had a similar experience?
Today, my youngest is thirteen years old, a middle guy who’s almost seventeen and my daughter who is getting married in early 2016. My children can get their own drinks, make their own sandwiches, heat up their dinner and wipe their own tooshies. I birthed a career doing my soul work six years ago – which has gained momentum, and my beloved husband “Big Mike” and I vacation all over the world.
I’m A Queen.
I invite you to take stock of what phase you’re at in your life. Are you in the Maiden phase or the Mother phase? Have you entered into the Queen phase or are you a bad ass Crone?
Wherever you are on your journey, I wish you many abundant blessings.
About Lisa Marie Rosati
Visionary and Intuitive Lisa Marie Rosati is a renowned Transformation Catalyst for women. She’s the Creatrix of The Goddess Lifestyle Plan & Sugar Free Goddess Program, Expert Columnist for Aspire Magazine, and co-author of four Best-selling books. It’s Lisa life passion to help women experience a luscious goddess life overflowing with red-hot passion, vibrant health, entrepreneurial success, practical magic, sacred ritual, feminine mystery, spiritual connection, prosperity and juicy fun.
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