The fantastic Mary Elizabeth Coen joins us today with an exquisite guest post. I know you will enjoy The Call of the Goddess.
“If you have yet to be called an incorrigible, defiant woman,
don’t worry, there is still time” -Clarissa Pinkola Estés
Are you ready for the call of the goddess? Are you prepared to have your life and beliefs overturned in order to follow her?
If your answer is no, then remain asleep and read no further, for as Carl Jung said “He who looks outside dreams, he who looks inside awakens”.
Even if you choose to ignore her, she may come in a more aggressive form; that of Kali, the creator destroyer goddess, to irrevocably change the landscape of your life. But if you go willingly and take her hand, you will find her compassionate and tender as she guides you like a midwife through the channel of re-birth and metamorphosis. She will not leave or abandon you as you re- enter this world a more powerful woman, though initially vulnerable as a newborn lamb.
The call of the goddess is the call to consciousness… to live a life which is congruent with the very essence of your magnificent spirit. You are not here to be a victim or martyr. You are in female form to express the multi faceted nature of the feminine, be it maiden, mother or mad cackling crone with the gift of alchemy. I like to think that the poet Emily Dickinson’s much discussed sexual awakening was an inner calling from the goddess to abandon her white virginal robes and experience the heights of orgasmic ecstasy. Afterwards, Dickinson wrote her best poetry and an intense love affair with nature was fostered.
Ours is an ever expanding universe, where our lives mirror the cycle of the moon, the different seasons, the cosmos and nature itself. In all of these, change and continuous movement is the norm, yet as human beings we sometimes chose a life which keeps us stuck and does not contribute to either our personal growth or the higher good of humanity.
Society and the media attempt to brainwash women into believing that as long as our lives look good on the outside, then our own personal happiness is secondary. In some cases we falsely believe we need a man to validate us, otherwise we do not count. Many of us pour our energies into rearing children and pleasing husbands, while others climb the corporate ladder by denying their femininity and playing men at their own game. Like swans, we keep busy looking serene … floating on the water, while paddling furiously beneath the surface. We are congratulated by family, friends and community for doing a good job, while haunted by wild, sometimes erotic fantasies and dreams; all the time fearful that the fragile structure of our lives could one day crumble.
Sometimes the goddess arrives gently through our sorrow, after the death of a loved one or in circumstances of failing health or redundancy from career. In depression or despair we may seek the help of a counselor who assists in re-connecting us to the buried feminine part of ourselves that demands more than a superficial life of conformity. But more often than not, the goddess niggles us from the inside, yet many turn away from her call to consciousness. It is easy to ignore, since the divine feminine has been repressed for centuries, for fear of its wild untamed power.
Spiritual author Caroline Myss, writes that we come into this life with a promise to honour our unique set of sacred contracts. Myss says that when we do not honour a contract, it does not go away but will return again, until such time that we are ready to act. In other words, that which we resist will persist. And as we kick, scream and lash against change, the goddess gets ready to step in and help us abandon what we think we need, but in reality is toxic to our spirit.
Living from an unconscious mind brain, we cling by our fingernails to the material things that give us security and status. Most of us were socialized and fed a certain set of beliefs from the time we were very small. Schools, society and religious systems reinforced many of these norms and values along with instilling the emotion of fear into our hearts rather than encouraging the positive emotions of confidence, love, courage and trust.
To illustrate a point let me tell you about a woman named Vera who stayed with an abusive husband because she knew divorce would have a devastating effect not only in her life but also in her children’s. As long as there was security, she sacrificed her dreams and endured endless humiliation. It was only when her pain body reached a point where she could take no more that she finally walked out the door. In that final act, she answered the call of the goddess and ended a contract she had been called to end fifteen years earlier. It takes courage to change your life, especially as we get older.
As we move from answering the call, the next step is to trust and open ourselves to receiving from the universe, for receptivity is one of the gifts of the goddess. Again for many of us this concept appears counter -intuitive to our left brain thinking, especially if we have been told since childhood that nothing comes easy in life.
Do you think you can answer the call and trust all will be well?
Ask yourself the following questions:
- Would you abandon a pensionable job for the dream of being an artist or a healer?
- Would you leave a toxic relationship even if it meant losing your money& security?
- Would you have the courage to move house because your heart calls you to live in a cottage by the sea.
- Can you forgive everyone who has ever hurt you, then thank them (silently) for the lessons and forgive yourself?
- Can you practice living in the present moment and trust all will be well no matter what your circumstances?
If you answer yes to the above, then you are prepared to live an authentic life where you honor your true self and in turn serve the higher good of humanity by living a conscious life. Instead of fearing the call of the Goddess, you will welcome the experience and wisdom she brings for this is the way of the heart.
Sure, you may have to undergo another rite of passage; a time of transition and letting go of the old to make space for the new. The way of the goddess is the path of least resistance; a sinuous graceful path of going with the flow. It calls for you to love and trust yourself enough to believe you are perfect, whole and complete exactly as you are. The more you can cast aside old belief systems or unnecessary material goods, the lighter the load you will carry into a future built on positive, loving thoughts entertained in the here and now. And the really good news is that life can get better as you grow older, especially if you fill your heart with gratitude for the blessings you receive.
Author Bio – Mary Elizabeth Coen
Living in Ireland, Mary Elizabeth Coen is a full-time author and stress management lecturer, while also running a website called Goddess MECA. The acronym is for Mary Elizabeth Coen Assists the Goddess in everywoman through sharing her love of cookery fashion and mythology. Mary brings her experience from teaching, using tools that are practical and easily integrated.
Mary is the author of the celebrated Love and The Goddess: One woman. One myth. Three Goddesses.
You are welcome to read my review of Love and The Goddess HERE. It’s an excellent read!