A timely post from the archives of Transformation Goddess…

I love myself by fully appreciating and accepting myself for the woman I am today. I practice letting go of guilt, shame and useless drama. I forgive myself for the mistakes I’ve made. I affirm that I am perfect, just as I am. And you are too. You are perfect just as you are. I invite you to liberate your heart and let love in.

If you are beating yourself up for choices made during your unconscious youth or if you are still angry with someone who’s done you harm, it’s time to let it go. You deserve to receive the healing gift of forgiveness. When you learn to let go and forgive, you can move forward in light and love.

How would you feel if you could forgive yourself and others for every boundary crossed, every harmful word, every irreverent action? I can tell from experience, you’ll feel AMAZING.

What is the upside of holding on to all of your anger, pain and suffering? If you are holding a grudge, YOU are suffering. If you are hanging on to shame and guilt for choices you made in the past, YOU are committing violent acts against yourself. Be honest: Are you ready to begin healing your wounded heart? If your answer is yes, then it’s time to dig deep.

Dance with your shadow. Face her. Accept Her. Embrace her. With deep introspection, you can learn to accept your precious self and receive
all the love you deserve.

3 Sacred Exercises to Forgive Yourself
& Receive Love Now

Forgiveness Journaling Exercise

Identify what is haunting you. Write your story. Let your tears fall upon the page. Squeeze every detail of how you feel about the ghosts of your past. What are you angry about? What do you wish you could change? Are you holding a grudge? How is this story serving you today?

Sacred Love Letter

Now that you’ve written your story, write a love letter to yourself from the woman you are today. Write your letter to the little girl, teenager or woman who needs to know she is loved. Accepted. Perfect. No matter what choices she’s made in her past. Post it and mail it to yourself or ask a friend to mail it for you.

Sacred Forgiveness Ritual

Create a sacred ceremony and honor the woman you are today. Your storied past. Your highs and lows. Begin your ceremony by finding a quiet place where you can be undisturbed for awhile. Light a candle, take a deep cleansing breath and recite (out loud) ten things that you love about yourself. For example: I love myself because I am kind. I love myself because I’m a supportive friend. I love the way I can light up a room with my laugh etc. Next recite the following phrase: “I am enough. I matter. I love myself just as I am. I forgive myself and others. I will no longer carry the weight of the anger, shame and suffering of my past. I am willing to let go of the past and love myself now. And so it is.” Now blow out the candle and give yourself a hug.

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About Shann Vander Leek

Shann Vander Leek

Shann is a Transformational Leader, Award-Winning Podcaster, Best-Selling Author, Voice Over Talent, Podcast Coach, and Producer. She lives in the village of Suttons Bay, Michigan with her beloved husband and mouthy old cat. This Goddess Shines!

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  • Andrea May 8, 2014, 4:17 pm

    Learning forgiveness is *such* an important tool…. and makes space for more of the good stuff! I also like your suggestions for how to move in that direction.Thanks.

    • Shann May 8, 2014, 4:36 pm

      Hi Andrea,
      Thanks for your kindness and for stopping by! Create a great afternoon.
      XOX – Shann

  • Naomi Goodlet May 8, 2014, 10:33 pm

    Beautiful insights here. I’ve been doing alot of forgiveness work this week so this is perfect timing for me. xx

    • Shann May 9, 2014, 8:21 am

      Thanks Naomi,
      Glad this post resonates with you.
      Big LOVE, XO

  • Caroline Kirk May 9, 2014, 7:24 am

    Love this Shann, I had to really embrace forgiveness a few years back as the memories of what had happened were eating me up.. it’s been so liberating and soul nourishing. I love your 3 tips.. I did the story already and let the tears fall but i love the idea of the love letter and the ritual.. I’ve shared this on my page as its powerful advice. thank you <3

    • Shann May 9, 2014, 8:24 am

      Thank you Caroline,
      Forgiveness will set you free!
      I’m happy that you shared this nourishing exercise with your circle.
      So much love!

  • Martine Joseph May 9, 2014, 10:25 am

    Thank you for sharing this post Shann. It’s just what I needed to read. Will write that love letter to myself this weekend! Blessings, Martine

  • Nadia May 9, 2014, 12:33 pm

    I love the Sacred Forgiveness Tool 🙂 Just the other day I was talking to my husband about forgiveness. There is something he can’t forgive himself for. As I was giving him all these tips on how he could forgive himself, he listened and absorbed, and then put it very simply but so right on ( I love him so much for this. He is a man of few words but when he does say something it is always so profoundly simple and true. Not a lot of words required…) so this is what he said : ” To be able to forgive you have to accept what happened.”

    • Shann May 9, 2014, 2:48 pm

      Nadia, Thank you for your kindness. Your husband sounds like a wise man! XO

  • Vironika Tugaleva May 11, 2014, 6:00 pm

    Just gorgeous, Shann. I can vouch for the effectiveness of love letters. I get every single client to write love letters to themselves. It’s always such a transformative experience. To get into that state, I sometimes ask them to imagine themselves being a person who loves them unconditionally – looking at themselves with those eyes that already accept, already love, already forgive. Those are some powerful moments!

  • Suzie Cheel May 24, 2014, 2:56 am

    Love letters are such a great way of healing and bringing back love for oneself
    thank Shann

  • Marianne Soucy Feb 4, 2015, 8:24 am

    Thanks for sharing this post on forgiveness. It’s such an important topic. Love the simple but powerful steps.

    • Shann Feb 4, 2015, 2:49 pm

      My pleasure.
      Thank you for your kindness.

  • Sue Kearney (@MagnoliasWest) Feb 4, 2015, 3:32 pm

    I love this, especially loving the forgiveness ritual, which I’m adding to my Evernote. I know it won’t be too long now before I have an opportunity to put it to good use! 🙂

    Blessed be!

    • Shann Feb 9, 2015, 7:55 pm

      Thanks Sue! You are a LOVE. XO

  • Debra Reble Feb 4, 2015, 4:10 pm

    Shann you so speak to my heart and forgiveness is one of my heart practices each and everyday. Thank for sharing your bright light with us.

    • Shann Feb 9, 2015, 7:56 pm


      Thank you. I’m so glad this post resonates with you! Blessings, XO

  • Lisa Feb 4, 2015, 4:32 pm

    I love your words, “Dance with your shadow.” I agree forgiveness sets us free. When we hold onto the pain we are only hurting ourselves. I like your three tips for releasing to help the process along. Thanks

    • Shann Feb 9, 2015, 7:58 pm


      Thank you for kindness. My pleasure! XO